Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Common Relationship Problems

Something interesting i've stumbled upon as below:-

The biggest relationship mistake i see young men make is thinking that "women are this way" from all the stupid "forever alone", "hey aren't girls crazy, and "hey listen to this story about my crazy girlfriend" stories that float around.
Here's the straight scoop. There is a woman who will love playing video games with you. There is a woman who loves sports. Hell there is a woman who loves polka if that's what you're into. Don't get stuck in the trap of believing "what girls are like" and accepting someone who doesn't mesh with you based on this foolish common "knowledge".
If you don't want to be forced to watch sex and the city, find a woman who's not interested in sex and the city, or one who is but who respects that you aren't. Don't want to go shopping? Tell your woman or find one who doesn't want to drag you along.
Many of the problems i hear guys complaining about could be easily fixed by finding someone who actually shares their interested instead of the first hot body that catches their eye, or by putting their foot down at the beginning of the relationship. Don't pretend you like things you don't, don't go out of your way to pretend you're someone you're not, just be you and find someone who enjoys what you do.
I think this is the secret to happiness in relationships.

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The biggest relationship mistake I see young women make is thinking that "men will become the way I want" from all the stupid romantic comedies and TV dramas that float around.
Here's the straight scoop. There is a man who will fulfill your dreams. If the guy you're with isn't that man at this moment, then he will never be. Stop stringing him along and holding him to your standards. Even if he starts doing the things you want him to, he will resent you for only appreciating how you define him, not how he defines himself. And you will be unsatisfied that he caved and made the changes to keep you, rather than because he's a self-respecting, confident man who knows who he is.
Many of the problems I hear girls complaining about could be easily fixed by finding someone who actually does the things that she wants him to do, rather than pretending that her guy will do them some day... eventually. Stop trying to mold your man into something he's not. If you can't appreciate him the way he is break up with him. Do the both of you a favor and stop wasting his time. Then focus on finding someone who already fits the mold.
In essence, respect yourself for who you are, and respect the one you're with for who she/he is.
I think this is the secret to happiness in relationships.

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Guys are generally driven by logic and thus try to "fix" any problems in a logical manner. We are all emotion driven creatures. Yes men too. But trying to tackle something illogical as love in a logical manner usually results in undesirable results.

An example of this is when say your SO is having a bad day. She tells you about how her friend is backstabbing her or her parents are being unfair. A guy would take the "if you don't want to get wet, don't go out in the rain" approach. Meaning guys would say something like, "Well don't hang out with that friend anymore, or your parents are right not being unfair". Whether or not it's the truth is irrelevant. Girls don't tell you about their problems because they want solutions, but rather a person that will listen to them and take their side. This is something that took me a long time to get. You can discuss after the emotions have cooled down (days after) to say something like, "You don't need friends like that" or "maybe your parents had a good point". But when they tell you something, just be a good listener and take their side. Don't try to "fix" it. Just listen.

It's been said many times here, but communication is the key. Never assume anything. Don't try to read between the lines, because often, those are made up in your head. Every time I assume something, I remember this: Assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME. I know in my 9 year relationship, we both could have saved a lot of heartache and strife if we just communicated better.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

First 42KM achieved

completed my first full marathon run, on 18 November 2012 @ Penang Bridge. All I can say it was a superb experience.

I must say it was really mind blown by my own feat (also thanks to my partner which supports me through out this journey for success)


Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Project #42km


This year i've finally manage to took a feat which I always dreamed off, taking a full marathon event.

What is a full marathon ? its 42.195kilometer run which usually takes 6 hours or lesser to complete it. Thats like the distance from my house to Kuala Lumpur by foot.

Well today is my 3rd day of training. The sad part ever since I've enrolled to this event, my mom and girlfriend was very unsupportive. Seriously? from the two most person I love in this world and yet they pull me down straight away from my capability. How disspointing.

Yet to the few which was on my facebook page they been quite supportive and gave me motivation to persue this event :) god bless you guys and many thanks.

my 1st day of training was a short 7km run around my neighbouring field.

and yesterday was my 2nd day with an extra 1.5km to my previous run. Seriously it wasn't easy, the after effects from the 1st day soreness really demotivated me in doing my 2nd day run.

However with a do or die perception, i manage to pull myself together by god's grace and ran my 8.5km last night. Regretting slightly on getting a US size 10 jogging shoe, my right side of foot had slight blistering due to the  tightness of the shoe.

well i guess today will be another day for me to challenge myself for more mileage, but at least 5km would do due to my total soreness from both of my legs. Manage to swap my running shoe for a US size 11 so I hope i dont get blisters today.

Consider this jogging session is a really marvelous time for me spending time with god on my mind and having devotional time with him.

will keep you guys update on my running sessions stay tune :D #42km

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Gaming Level (Battlefield 3)



High level play begins not with your mouse or controller, but with your mind. Always remember that. Not just your ability to process information and act on it, but also your ability to not defeat yourself. Most people have no idea that they are their own worst enemy. What I mean by this is pure mindset. If everytime you die, you blame anything other than yourself, then all you've succeeded in doing is making an excuse not to get better.


Friday, March 23, 2012

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Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Food for thoughts


Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.
We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.
Though it may sound simple, Ajahn Chah’s advice speaks volumes:

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.”
There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful.

1. Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box.

2. Focus all your energy on something you can actually control, instead of dwelling on things you can’t.

3. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise.

4. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramset Medical Center in Minneapolis crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.

5. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person who upset you, and visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.

6. Take responsibility. Many times when you’re angry, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong—which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.

7. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make mistakes; and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband, father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.

8. Use a stress ball, and express your anger physically and vocally when you use it. Make a scrunched up face or grunt. You may feel silly, but this allows you to actually express what you’re feeling inside.

9. Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and gently flick it when you start obsessing on angry thoughts. This trains your mind to associate that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.

10. Remind yourself these are your only three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. These acts create happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.

11. Identify what the experience taught you to help develop a sense of closure.

12. Remember both the good and the bad. Even if appears this way now, the past was not perfect. Acknowledging this may minimize your sense of loss. As Laura Oliver says, “It’s easier to let go of a human than a hero.”

13. Un-romanticize the way you view love. Of course you’ll feel devastated if you believe you lost your soul mate. If you think you can find a love that amazing or better again it will be easier to move on.

14. Visualize an empowered single you—the person you were before meeting your last love. That person was pretty awesome, and now you have the chance to be him or her again.

15. Reward yourself for small acts of acceptance. Get a facial after you delete his number from your phone, or head out with friends after putting all her things in a box.

16. Hang this statement somewhere you can see it. “Loving myself means letting go.”

18. Replace your emotional thoughts with facts. When you think, “I’ll never feel loved again!” don’t resist that feeling. Instead, move on to another thought, like “I learned a new song for karaoke tonight.”

19. Use the silly voice technique. According to Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap, swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought.

20. Use a deep breathing technique, like ujayii, to soothe yourself and seep into the present moment.

21. Consider this quotation by Eckhart Tolle: “Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” Questioning how your stress serves you may help you let it go.

22. Use it up. Make two lists: one with the root causes of your stress, and one with actions to address them. As you complete these tasks, visualize yourself utilizing and depleting your “stress supply.”

23.Learn to trust again — by trusting yourself. Dr. Phil tells a man who's having a hard time letting women back into his life: "Trust is not about how much you trust one person or another to do right or wrong.

24.How much you trust another person is a function of how much you trust yourself to be strong enough to deal with their imperfections." Have enough faith in yourself to be able to put yourself on the line with someone, without any guarantee of what will happen next.

25.If you're playing the game with sweaty palms, it's because you're afraid of what you can or can't do, or dealing with your own imperfections — it's not about the other person.

26.Know that you will get hurt if you're in a relationship. There is no perfect person without flaws. Even a well-intended guy is going to hurt his partner.

27.He's going to hurt your feelings. He's going to say things that you don't want him to say. He's going to do things you wish he wouldn't do and not do things you wish he would do.

28.A relationship is an imperfect union between two willing spirits who say, ''I'd rather be in a relationship and share my life, share my joys, share my fun, share my activities, share my life than do it alone."

29.If you want to be in a relationship, know that getting hurt comes with the territory. You just have to decide that you are durable enough, that you have enough confidence in yourself that you can handle it.

30.Don't beat yourself up. You got through your last experience, you've learned from it, and now it's time to move forward.

31."You'll move on and be a champion in your next endeavor as you did in your past ... Life is not a success-only journey. You are going to get beat up along the way."

32.Focus on yourself. All of us come into relationships with baggage, but you need to have closure on past experiences before you can start a new relationship with the odds in your favor.

33.Are your standards too low? Dr. Phil asks a guest who's waiting around for a man that's let her down time and again: "What is it about you that causes you to settle for somebody that you know will cheat on you, know will lie to you, know will make a commitment and then break it? What is it about you that you believe about yourself that you're willing to settle for that?"

34.Recognize that you're settling and that you deserve more. Set a higher standard for yourself.

35.Does he really even make you happy? Be honest with yourself about the extent to which he's really meeting your needs.

36.Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish he was.

37."There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things.And then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'" Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.

38.Don't put your life on hold. Every minute you spend focusing on your ex is a minute that's holding you back from a better future.

Friday, March 2, 2012

Self improvement: the little steps




We all have periods in our lives when we feel down in the dumps.
There is a distinct difference between being down or depressed - our article in the blue box below explains how to tell the difference.
If you are depressed it is important to visit your GP who will be able to help you treat the condition.
But for the many others whose mood is not severe enough for medical treatment there is much that can be done to improve the way they feel.
Scientists have found that some simple changes to your life could improve your mood. From increasing your exercise output and drinking more water to eating Brazil nuts and listening to your favourite music - there is plenty you can do to transform the way you feel.
Here is our guide to the top ten steps to improving your mood if you are feeling a little down in the dumps.




1. DRINK PLENTY OF WATER
We already know that drinking water keeps us hydrated and can improve our skin, but water also has a role to play in lifting our mood. Early findings of a survey carried out by the Food and Mood Project founded by MIND, shows more than half of 200 people questioned found six to eight glasses of water improved their mental state.
Amanda Geary, who led the survey, says it is a well established scientific fact that insufficient amounts of water can cause confusion, irritability and poor concentration. This is because water carries nutrients into our body's cells and toxins out of them. If we become dehydrated, our cells can't function efficiently which can lead to an imbalance of electrolytes - ions in our body that cause movement of cells? causing confusion and poor concentration. 



2. EAT TWO BRAZIL NUTS EVERY DAY 
Believe it or not, eating foods rich in the mineral selenium or taking a selenium supplement can improve your mood. Eating two Brazil nuts or a small-sized bag of nuts and raisins on a regular basis has been shown to improve mood.
A study published in Psychopharmacology showed that a supplement of 100 micrograms a day of selenium significantly improved mood and decreased anxiety among those patients who had low levels of selenium in their diet. Although more research is needed, it is thought that selenium is linked to thyroid function and if your thyroid is not receiving enough selenium it can affect mood and behaviour.
The recommended daily dose for women is usually 60mg and 75mg for men - that's around one-and-a-half Brazil nuts. Selenium is also found in grains, cereals and shellfish, particularly crab. If you want to lift your mood, have two nuts a day, but always consult with your GP if you want to increase this dose.



3. LISTEN TO YOUR FAVOURITE MUSIC 
Early findings by Oxford's Brookes University suggest that listening to your favourite music while involved in tedious activities such as housework, washing and shopping induces positive mood change.
Not only this, but listening to classical music can help improve emotional problems. Research by Dr Susan Hallam of Brookes University found that youngsters with emotional and behavioural problems who listened to Mozart during lessons showed improved concentration and behaviour. This is because classical music was shown to lower body temperature, heart rate, pulse and calm breathing rates.


4. LAUGH MORE! 
We've all heard the phrase 'laughter is the best medicine' but according to research laughing can really calm the mind and improve our mental wellbeing. And according to experts say we're not laughing as much as we used to. People used to laugh 18 minutes a day in the 50s. Nowadays it's just six minutes a day.
Several studies demonstrate that laughter produces endorphins, natural chemicals that ease pain and produce a feeling of euphoria, helping us relieve physical and mental stress. Research by Professor William Fry from Stanford University demonstrated the physiological effects that laughter has on lowering blood pressure, heart rate, muscle relaxation and oxygen exchange.
To up your daily laughter quote, try watching a funny film, spending more time with friends, or visiting a comedy club.


5. AVOID DRINKING COFFEE 
Ever wonder why you feel anxious after drinking several cups of coffee? A band of scientists think caffeine is the single most important cause of anxiety in our society and more than nine cups of coffee per day can lead to stress and panic attacks.
So, if you're feeling particularly anxious, avoid coffee.
According to Dr Peter Rogers of Bristol University, our body produces adenosine - a natural sedative that helps keep us calm - but drinking too much coffee has the effect of blocking adenosine, leaving us feeling overstimulated. Although there is no recommended daily allowance for most groups of people, pregnant women should limit their caffeine intake to three mugs of coffee per day.


Monday, February 13, 2012

Final Back to the Future Fantasy XIII-2

So over the weeks of my absent posting, I've been sucked into a game from Square Enix. The only game company which hold a strong franchise of Final Fantasy, a long running typical JRPG genre.


Since I've played the previous game (Final Fantasy XIII) as a curious cat as I am, I eventually fall into the rabbit hole by offering my hard earn wages to this evil franchise once again.Other than that, all I wanted to know was how was the story told so far.

On the first impression, they have a long opening cinematic which felt like Metal Gear Solid 4. Shortly from that, I was greeted by the similar loading screen from its predecessor and right there the game throw me a battle with an Eidolon (Guardians) with me controlling Lightning.



Everything at this point, felt almost like the previous game. After a few more battles, I was greeted again with more cinematic but to my surprised there was cinematic trigger.



There is also tons of Live trigger where players would need to choose their a selection of dialogues and get different outcome every time. This has been confirmed by the developers that its an additional touch in the Final Fantasy series so players would feel more interacted between the games characters in the Final Fantasy World.



A lot of critics, stated a Final Fantasy XIII done right, I feel to defer that. Main reason was if Square Enix would to make it right they should not reuse most of all the monster sprites and similar world maps which was presented in FFXIII. I bet you guys would complain that its the same Universe as FFXIII, but at least they should make an initiative to provide the same area from a different angle. I felt it was a lazy version just to milk more from the franchise. But I like a few touches made by the character design which reminds me of kingdom hearts, Sora as well has other previous Final fantasy related games. But also strangely you will get Serah some weird dress during the starting episode from god knows where.



Furthermore, eidolon summoning was removed and has been replaced by your 3rd party being monsters you capture, this doesn't make any sense at all when you captured monsters to fight by your side. I felt so Pokemonish. Battle system is still the same where the paradigm shift is there, graphics is still as superb as its predecessor since its design from the same Crystal Engine.



 Character progress at first seems like it was pretty straight forward where all of the role class shared the same Crystarium tree which looks like star constellation. So wrong was I when almost maxed level both of my characters, and found them a little squishy side. After hours of research over the internet, different roles on Large nods of the constellation tree has additional bonus depending on which role you place it. From this lesson I had to replay the entire game again, since I'm pretty much a  perfectionist. (SO GUYS PLEASE PLAN ON YOUR BUILD BEFORE throwing all your role points into the leveling system).




Soundtrack was marvelous, but I felt it was pretty redundant in the mid-game where battle songs keeps on repeating it self over and over again. Some recognizable music from FFXIII was also in this game. Story wise, well considering my theory was that developers got no more further advancement of the genuine story line, they had to go and throw in the element of time paradox and time travel, where you have alternate story line which further confuses players with "what ifs" scenarios. Exploration has been expanded in this installment.



 Also a golden saucer make its comeback in this game which has been renamed to Serendipity. Players now can waste endless time on virtual money to blow on slot machine and chocobo racing. Other then that, we have puzzle temporal rifts, were players would need to solved it in order to progress to the story line. Some are ridiculously hard but doable just get ready to spend some long time and effort in solving em especially the clock puzzle.




All in all, its a decent JRPG and a not too bad installment for Final Fantasy fans that needs a filler in their life after Square Enix failed miserably on FFXIV. Overall 7+0.5/10 (+0.5 because the game has a MOOGLE!!!)



Saturday, January 21, 2012

Underworld: Awakening of Girl Power!


Yesterday manage to go and catch a movie at pavilion with someone that I'm fond of. I'm pretty amazed by technology today.


I've just purchased the tickets a day before via my Iphone app and with a scan of the 2d barcode via my phone, the automated gate allowed that many person to enter to the entrance of the movie halls. At least I'm doing mother nature a favor of reducing ticket stubs :D


Oh yes, this is the forth installment of the underworld franchise and I've been following it since the first movie. Well it has vampires, lycans (werewolves), chick in tight latex Ala matrix style, gun fights, gore, goth, a decent love story? and pretty good soundtracks. Considering this is the continuity from the second movie of Underworld as the third one was actually a prequel for the entire series.


New viewers of this franchise will not be lost in this latest installment because there was a brief introduction of  all previous 3 series. On the side note, hall 13 of GSC surpasses the view-ability since the projection was crystal clear / life like / opera presentation. It was watching underworld live version :D


Story wise, there was a great purge going on where lycans and vampires are getting exterminated by humans. The heroine and her lover made a call for leaving the city however sadly failed and ended up stasis for 12 years.


As the heroine woke up from her slumber, she was pretty lost and from there trying to find her other half. Among the heat of it, she found another truth over the 12 years period of hibernation. Anyway don't wanna spoil more for you guys. Go watch it.


Story line was... wait a minute whats up with all this family matters/value in movies lately, from real steel to Viral Factor and now this movie too. anyway the director kinda grasp my attention towards the plot has well as a clean presentation of the feeling shown by the mother and child as well has her lost beloved one.

The movie also makes you grip your seat for its action pack thrill ride takes you all over the place of the screen has John Woo style gun fights + gory neck ripping, blood gushing scene would surely not bore the viewers out.




For those that has follow on the series, I must say in my humble opinion that this new installment certainly did not disappoint me. The effects are superbly well done, as you can see Kate Beckinsale still has her groove and stylish finishers. A few good fighting scene where a werewolf was trying to get the best of her. Of course the werewolf cheated and used steroids and gets a few dosage where you would never expected.


The whole story evolves around the heroine, and her offspring where she holds the key of uber supreme power for the lycans. So yea there was a twist in the plot as well and the finale fight scene was quite a little predictable but it was fun to see how it did played out.



The movie ended short when both my acquaintance and me was just getting the climax of the movie. 1 hour and 30 mins time frame and yet so much that should be rolling out to make it a 2 hour show. But the director ensures us that the movie franchise does not end there.

So, most likely there would be a 5th installment of the movie where I can presume the new vampire dude would fall for that small hybrid girl and they would kick off another point of view of the whole underworld franchise. Who knows, that's just my hypothetical theory.

In conclusion its seriously a nice show to pay to watch at the cinema, be warned tho, human which dislike blood gashing out or scene of brutality should not be advisable to watch this movie. Overall I would give a 7.5/10

Friday, January 20, 2012

The Viral Factor makes bolehland proud!!


Should be called The Family Factor instead. Anyway just got home from my first HK movie I've watched this year. The main reason why the heck did I've indulged myself into this specific film was, not because Dante Lam's previous award winning Beast Stalker & Stool Pigeon. Not even the main cast (Nicholas Tse & Jay Chou) was the main highlight for me to went to watch the movie. But low behold the photos below :D


 First runner and second runner.





 Lucky fellow get his hand grabbed and twisted by Nicholas Tse 




 This part imagine like 20 Police man standing by behind far corner waiting to chase him down haha..
His double didn't jump but the actual Nicholas Tse jumped!!




Haha.. since the NDA has been lifted due to the release of the movie, I can try to recall my small contribution to the movie !! :P I actually acted as an extra in the movie. Sadly the scene was so fast I manage to catch a glimpse of my mirage chasing down Nicholas Tse during the scene where he tries to escape from the High Court of Kuala Lumpur.


So anyway back to the story, very typical bio-weapon, let loose a mutated virus and be the person with the only medicine and vaccine for it kinda movie flavor. But throughout the entire movie, it didn't make me feel the importance of the virus but more of a Cat & Mouse chase. Where the Cat (Jay Chou) miraculously has life span of 2 week to survive when he got a bullet stuck in his brain.

The opening is very much like a scene from Battlefield 3 map called Sharqi Peninsula!!! where a fire fight broke out during a escort of some scientist.

But overall being a Malaysian, I was pretty impressed on how the director work his way into the highlights of Kuala Lumpur. Majority of the scene was shot in Kuala Lumpur golden triangle.



Not to forget places which I've been so often during my college days!!! Some not to forget areas was the busy KL Sentral, the walkway of Pavilion and the most memorable of them all was the chase scene on Jalan Pudu / Jalan Raja Chulan. It seriously portrayed how crazy the traffic was in the show as well and also that scene reminds me of how I travel up and down from that crazy street just to get to my customer side during working days. =__=




Action was mostly non-stop once it kicks off, chase after chases from foot, to car, to trains and even helicopters ! not to mention the amount of freaking PDRM amazes me in the movie but not in reality.


Overall the feel of the movie was mostly felt towards a family affair instead to the actual movie was trying to plot on as an action flick. Like usual Jay Chou slaps on his expressionless acting but I guess it's been improving over the times. ( no wonder the director was smart enough to drop a bullet into his brain so he can continue being expressionless throughout the movie).


On the other hand, over the top bad ass thief+gangster+fugitive+anti-hero Nicholas Tse acting. Sadly some crying scene he did it too overboard where sometimes it seems over doing it. (please note there was some cendol oozing out from his nose too)



I can't wait to snag a DVD copy of this show to try to get my name on the credit rolls and also try to capture the mirage scene of myself :P


In Conclusion, it's really a good movie to watch and Malaysian citizen should be proud of it since it opens to a wider audience of our country main capital city. It's also more of less a softcore version of Real Steel where family bonds matters the most in the heist of this action movie. 7/10